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Wednesday, March 22, 2017

5 ways to prevent paranoia from wrecking your relationship Your girl is not sleeping with her boss. Take a chill pill.

Get rid of skepticism and undue worry about your partner
 (Gurls)

Paranoia is what you get when you experience a kind of anxiety or fear, usually to the point of delusion and irrationality.

Paranoia raises your suspicions, fears and worries that your partner is not doing right by you, even when there is absolutely nothing that points to such wrongdoing.
In a relationship where one or both partners allow paranoia, it won't be long before arguments, fights, allegation and counter-allegations become the norm; and in soon enough the relationship will become another wreck in the relationship scrapheap.
Below we list five ways to prevent paranoia from destroying your beautiful relationship.

1. Be trusting

Regardless of how bad you were played in your past relationships, you cannot afford to get into a new relationship without trust.
It is better to be alone than get into a romantic affair and close one’s self away from trusting.

2. Learn patience

Things are not always as they seem, and without patience, you’d do things you’re not supposed to do based on suspicions that might not be true.
playBe calm in all matters. Hear your partner out before reaching conclusions (CNN)

It is advisable in a relationship to be as patient as possible, hearing your partner’s side of the story at all times before jumping to conclusions or reacting.

3. Let your guard down

In an age where cheating and infidelity seems so rampant, it is understandable if you want to be on the lookout for any slightest sign of wrongdoing in your partner, especially if you have once been cheated on.
However, being so guarded will only get you so uptight that you won’t even enjoy the relationship. You need to realise that your partner is not out to do you dirty, except if you see signs of such wrongdoings.
playYou can't afford to come into a new relationship with the distrust learnt from past relationships (Pinterest)

Till then, let your guard down slightly, and enjoy the relationship.

4. Let your partner be

Stories exist of boyfriends who can’t put their minds at rest when their girlfriends are out at parties or other occasions, so they call non-stop in the name of ‘checking on you,’ whereas they only want to be sure that the girl is not cheating on them with someone else.
It won’t be long before these calls become uncomfortable for the other partner who will start feeling monitored, and might develop feelings of resentment.
And resentment is not a good feeling in relationships, is it?
playLearn to let your partner have some fun without calling them suspiciously every ten minutes (Know Your Meme)

5. Don’t fret over social media activities

That cute girl that just followed your guy is not sleeping with him.
And because your girl commented ‘LOL’ on a couple of pictures of the same guy does not mean she wants to get down with him.
Calm down.

This is what love feels like with the right person. According to people who have been in love with one person for over 30 years...



In the early stages of a relationship, everything will feel so sweet and so romantic… like a page pulled out of a splendid fairy tale.

Sadly this giddy feeling often fades off at some point, leaving the partners stripped and wondering if they are still in love at all. This is usually the stage where many relationships crash.
But according to couples who have been together for 30 years and more, this is what love feels like with the right person… the one with whom you can spend forever.

1. You’ll feel like you’ve known each other forever

Mrs. Nnena says when she started dating her husband in 1984, it felt like they had known each other forever and even when they got married in 1985 it only felt natural. 32 years later, their three daughters are now happily married and they are still very happy together.
playYou will love each other like you have known each for all your lives (Pinterest)

2. Accept each other

Partners that will last together accept each other the way they are from the onset. They take themselves as they are – no attempt to change or turn the other person around to suit their ‘taste’
“He always accepted me with the baggage I came with. When I look at my husband today, I see the same guy I fell in love with 53 years ago." Says Elizabeth

3. You don't just love each other

If a relationship is going to last long, you’ll discover from an early stage that you and that partner will love each other, and also like each other.
Mrs. Suliat [not her real identity] says “after 39 years, my husband and I still like each other a lot. We're together almost every moment of every day and still find laughter.”

4. They do little things to make you happy

Love remains to be found in the little things and one way to identify a partner who’ll be with you for a long, long time is their ability and willingness to so little things to make you happy.
"After almost half a century together, I would marry my husband all over again. He knows how much pleasure I [find in little things]. After all these years, he still adores me and I adore him." Says Naomi, married for 43 years.

5. Similar values

When you find someone with whom you have similar goals, similar ideas and a significant merge of values and things that mean a lot to you, then you can be sure that you will be with such person for long.
“Too many people expect perfection from their spouse, but people aren't perfect. The fact that we wanted the same things out of life was the sign to me that we were meant to be." Says Nana, a grandma married for 41 years

5 important rules for couples in long-distance relationships



Being in a long-distance relationship could indeed be trying and difficult.

There will be days when you’ll long to just be with your significant other, and nights when Skype calls will not be enough to fill the void their absence created.
Regardless of this though, you can still make the best of your relationship or marriage in your partner’s absence.

1. Extra effort

While couple who see each other every day need to put in effort, be trusting, considerate and patient with their partner, being in a long-distance relationship requires you to put in extra effort, be extra-trusting and a lot more patient with your partner.

playNights when Skype calls will not be enough to fill the void their absence created. (Psychology Today)

2. Fixed meeting time

Couples in this kind of relationship need to have a meeting time that nothing should change. A weekend, a month, or any agreed time that both partners need to religiously follow.
Making a promise to be around and failing to fulfil such promise will add extra tension on a relationship that is being stretched already, and you don’t need that.

3. Communication

This is important for all couples, but more important for you. Couples who have been denied a lot of things because of distance cannot afford to lose communication, too. It’s an absolute NO.
playMake sure to keep promises of arrival dates (Bored Panda)

It is not even enough to communicate daily; you need to find a way to keep your daily conversations interesting, open, honest and even sexy.
That way, the spark will remain alive till you eventually close that distance.

4. The big picture

Instead of letting yourself worry that your partner might be cheating on you where he or she is, instead of letting paranoia get to you, focus on the big picture -  concentrate on the moments shared together, on the things you will do together on his or her next scheduled visit and other positive thoughts.
playConcentrate on the sweet memories created and more of it to be created again (Natural Beauty)

5. Make every moment count

Because you won’t be having the same time that other couples have with their significant others, you have to always look for ways to enjoy every second spent together… every meeting, every moment… you have to make it count.
The more happy memories you have, the easier it’ll be to get by.

Thursday, March 2, 2017

The 5 Things You Should Really Look for in a Partner What are the most important qualities for a happy relationship?


In our look for a sentimental accomplice, the majority of us have an extensive rundown of characteristics that portray our ideal mate. These inclinations go from general qualities (e.g., keen, kind, clever, audacious, comprehension) to particular abilities and interests (e.g., great cook, cherishes baseball, politically dynamic, likes to travel). Yet, we understand that we can't discover everything in one individual — We'll need to make a few bargains. What are the most vital things you ought to search for on the off chance that you need to have an upbeat and effective relationship? Many years of research inspecting relationship fulfillment and life span focuses to a few qualities that you might have the capacity to spot at an opportune time that improve somebody an accomplice.

1. Concentrate on benevolence, reliability, and comprehension, not looks, status, and energy

At the point when individuals are made a request to list the most essential qualities in a potential accomplice, consideration, physical allure, an energizing identity, and pay/procuring potential tend to beat the list.1 But some of these attributes are more vital than others once individuals really get included seeing someone. Inquire about I portrayed in detail in a prior post found that those whose accomplices meet their beliefs as far as warmth and steadfastness are more happy with their connections. Though meeting beliefs as far as physical engaging quality, energy, status, and riches is a great deal less corresponded with general fulfillment. This exploration likewise found that having an accomplice who missed the mark on appeal, status, and fervor did not influence fulfillment if that accomplice was exceedingly warm, kind, and faithful. So those more "shallow attributes" were not imperative by any means, for those whose accomplices were caring, understanding, and faithful.

2. Closeness

You ought to search for somebody who is like you. A substantial assortment of research demonstrates that we are pulled in to individuals who are like us, particularly the individuals who share our states of mind and values. What's more, truth be told, comparative couples are more joyful. Look into has demonstrated that couples who share tastes, interests, and desires tend to experience less conflicts.3,4 When you like similar sorts of sustenance, films, or side interests and have similar states of mind toward work-recreation adjust, youngster raising, and taking care of social commitments, there is only significantly less to quarrel over. There is likewise prove that companions that begin more comparative as far as instructive accomplishment, age, and fancied number of kids are less inclined to get divorced.5

Furthermore, looking for a mate who is like you may some of the time make them scan for attributes that are more quirky — enhancing your odds of landing somebody who has those qualities. Nearly everybody needs a mate who is benevolent and gorgeous, so kind and attractive individuals will be sought after on the dating market. In any case, in the event that you truly need somebody who shares your enthusiasm for traditional dancing and your fixation on Buffy the Vampire Slayer, the opposition is probably going to be less extreme.

3. Honesty

You ought to discover somebody who is solid. Scruples is about being commonsense, solid, govern taking after, and sorted out. This may not seem like the sexiest bundle of attributes, but rather it's a decent bundle in a long haul mate. Individuals who are scrupulous have a tendency to bring that attribute into their connections and are more reliable and trustworthy.6 People who are less principled are more hard to manage in a relationship – They wipe out arrangements, they don't satisfy their commitments around the house, they act heedlessly, and they fall through on their guarantees. So that disliked child in secondary school who dependably completed his or her homework early and took after every one of the standards could make a reliable and tried and true life partner later on.

4. Passionate strength

The one identity characteristic that influences our connections the most is enthusiastic strength — In mental writing, it's frequently alluded to by its inverse: neuroticism.7 Those who need passionate dependability have a tendency to be surly, tricky, restless, and snappier to outrage. The greater part of this makes them more hard to live with. Those high in neuroticism are a great deal more inclined to have contrary and contentious connections with other individuals, including their sentimental partners.8,9 They additionally have a tendency to be more envious and less forgiving.10,11 as anyone might expect, then, those high in neuroticism will probably wind up divorced.12 So in the early phases of dating, watch out for somebody who appears to be exorbitantly unstable and on edge, as it could be an indication that an association with them will be rough.

5. The conviction that connections take work

When you're quite recently beginning an association with somebody, it's difficult to expect how things will change after months or years together, and how this individual will manage the unavoidable knocks along the street. In any case, you can get a feeling of how hard they will function to keep up a cheerful relationship and resolve clashes. How? You have to comprehend their general theory about connections.

Specialists have distinguished two arrangements of convictions about connections: development convictions and predetermination beliefs.13 Those with fate convictions believe that connections are either intended to be or not. They trust that once two perfect partners join together, everything will be incredible. On the off chance that a relationship is intended to be, then everything will simply work out. On the off chance that there are issues, that is only a sign that you're with the wrong individual. Conversely, those with development convictions believe that connections take diligent work and that a solid relationship is something that you create after some time. They trust that all connections will experience issues and that having a more grounded relationship implies endeavoring to adapt to challenges that emerge.

These distinctive states of mind toward connections have real ramifications for how individuals adapt to relationship troubles. At the point when individuals with fate convictions hit a knock, they accept it's an indication that the relationship is damned. So they have a tendency to maintain a strategic distance from clashes and get to be distinctly furious in the event that they should recognize their accomplice's issues (since that would mean the relationship is not intended to be). What's more, when difficult situations arise, they surrender, instead of attempting to repair harm to the relationship. Conversely, those with development convictions are more open to talking about issues, and react emphatically to challenges in the relationship by attempting to determine them.

So on an early date, get some information about their state of mind toward connections – If they have a fatalistic mentality, that could be a terrible sign.

These are only a couple of characteristics that you can pay special mind to right on time in a relationship. Obviously this is not a thorough rundown, as there are different qualities likewise connected with relationship achievement. What's more, numerous vital components won't appear until some other time in your relationship (e.g., the way they manage clashes, how they coexist with your family). Is your relationship destined if your accomplice doesn't have these qualities? Positively not (that kind of intuition is a fate conviction!). Yet, these elements have been appeared to be related with having more joyful connections. What's more, they are things that you can make sense of before long as you become acquainted with another accomplice. So remember these 5 qualities whenever you're beginning another relationship.

10 Ways to Make Your Relationship Magically Romantic Creating magical moments in your relationship is easy and fun.

Making supernatural minutes in your relationship is something everybody ponders, except few individuals do. Maybe this is on the grounds that they really can't consider precisely what to do. Here are ten "demonstrations of adoration" that you can do with and for your accomplice to bring somewhat more sentiment into your relationship.

1. Make your morning time exceptional by bringing your accomplice some espresso while he or she is still in bed. In case you're ready and capable you can likewise serve them breakfast in bed. It will make your accomplice feel appreciated and the graciousness will be returned.

2. Make the time toward the finish of the work-day when you first observe each other additional exceptional by giving each other a 10 second embrace and kiss. You will both feel all the more profoundly associated all through the night. Likewise recall to touch your accomplice warmly for the duration of the day, not exactly when you need to be sentimental.

3. Set aside a few minutes to set aside a few minutes. Arrange a sentimental meet amid the week. You can get a room at a neighborhood lodging or plan to have the house all to yourselves. Simply the reckoning of being as one along these lines will add start to your sentimental life.

4. At whatever point you can, set aside the opportunity to give your accomplice 100% of your consideration when they need to converse with you. Put down the remote control or whatever you're perusing, confront your accomplice and say "What might you want to discuss?" It will make your accomplice feel cherished and essential to you.

5. Set aside the opportunity to tell your accomplice that they look brilliant, wonderful, provocative or awesome. We as a whole have questions about our looks and hearing that we are appealing to our accomplices is a critical piece of making a sentimental relationship.

6. Before you leave in the morning tell your accomplice that you are anticipating seeing them when you return. Never go out without recognizing your accomplice or saying, "I adore you."

7. Next time you are shopping alone, get a few little "shock blessings" for your accomplice. Whenever he or she is feeling down, give them one of the blessings. This is a superb and inspiring demonstration of affection and it will be associated with quite a while.

8. On the off chance that your accomplice is having an unpleasant day offer to take them out or make supper for them. In the event that they are the one as a rule doing the cooking this will be a much needed development and an indication of your appreciation. On the off chance that they are encountering worry at work, it will be an awesome path for them to loosen up from an extreme day.

9. Be unconstrained and lease a convertible and abduct your accomplice for a drive up the drift for lunch or supper. This is a magnificently sentimental and exceptionally basic thing to do. In the event that you need to be somewhat more luxurious, you can spend the night at a Bed and Breakfast and commute home the following day.

10. This one is frightfully sentimental, so don't attempt it unless you're prepared for an enthusiastic night. Get your accomplice at least two roses. Take one of them and draw off the petals. Drop the petals on the floor prompting to the room and place a few petals on the bed. Put alternate roses in a vase on the end table. Your accomplice will always remember your astuteness.

Try not to attempt to do everything on this rundown around the same time, one a month is bounty. These thoughts are only a little help to kick you off. When you go ahead, more thoughts will come to you all alone.

Setting aside the opportunity to make sentiment in your relationship is fundamental to making a satisfying affection life. Regardless of the possibility that you think your thoughts are senseless, your accomplice will be excited that you set aside the opportunity to accomplish something adoring for them. Keep in mind, the idea checks.